Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Contemplating cloning myself…

I have read several blogs today by other Foreign Service spouses, who are overwhelmed with all the things they need to take care of. For some reason, several of them really resonated with me, though we are in very different circumstances. I am talking about ladies who have three or four kids each AND are either going it alone because the husband is on a unaccompanied tour, working from home to help the family finances, or going though major, major health issues.

So my rant will sound totally lame by comparison but that’s how I feel, even though I am, for the first time ever, a stay-at-home-mom. I have one kid in first grade and another on the way. I live in Northern Virginia, not in a developing country, for the time being. My husband works in town and not on the other side of the planet. Yet, I find myself more overwhelmed by the things I need to do on a daily basis than when I was working full-time not too long ago.

I have no explanation for why that is but I am dreaming of cloning myself, you know like in the movie Multiplicity. I am just not sure how many clones I need, especially knowing that their "quality" deteriorates with each successive clone.

Let's see, I think, I'd like one clone to do the cleaning, shopping, the laundry and ironing, the cooking, the bills, the drop-offs and pick-ups. Another to be focused exclusively on the kid(s) – getting the kid(s) fed, bathed, doing homework, reading, entertaining, play dates etc. A third one to be the most dedicated wife and lover to my wonderful husband. A fourth one to spend time on social activities, such as staying in touch with friends and family and organizing get-togethers such as dinners, birthdays, baby showers, family and school reunions plus do volunteer work. And a fifth one to read, stay informed, smart, professional, learn Hindi and blog in a timely manner (as opposed to weeks after something blog-worthy happens). This one may even go back to work and make some extra cash for family vacations and such. Not sure which one I need to be the real me, the really good copy, the good copy, the so-so copy, and the last and probably not very good copy but I am not going to worry about that right now.

But five total - I think I'd be OK with five versions of me.

Is that too much to ask for?

If that’s not possible, some supermom powers will do too…

And because I know we all need them, I’m sending super powers to all my mom friends out there but especially to Jen, who is battling breast cancer and really needs them right now! The pink cape and boots in the picture are especially for you Jen!!!

Image by Eric Kastner, but it’s actually a cake topper, which I fully intend to use for baby showers in the future.


  1. I hear you! Isn't this the truth!

  2. I think that sounds lovely.
    And in my opinion, yes there are people that are going through some really difficult situations, but being a mom, especially a stay-at-home mom is tough. It takes so much work and is draining, especially when pregnant.

  3. If you figure out how PLEASE let the rest of us know! I dig the pregnant super hero. LOL!

  4. If cloning myself - can I have the pregnant superhero's legs?

    I think it's easier to not feel so busy when you don't have something pressing on your tailbone or forcing you to spend time on the couch (which I'm doing in the middle of the day while typing this).

  5. I LOVE the pregnant superhero! I meant to mention it today and completely forgot (I have "can't think straight brain" this month...)...I am so sorry. I love the post, it's awesome, thank you so much!

  6. Your post has been included in the weekly State Department Blog Round Up

    Thanks for your wonderful contribution!

  7. Also loving the superhero... and the idea of cloning!

  8. I used to think I'd like a clone, but I think she'd annoy me too much... I like me a lot, but I'm not so sure I could handle a double dose. Becoming a SAHM, after a lifetime of working too much, was one of the hardest transitions I've ever made. One of the first things I had to do was buy a smartphone/PDA!

  9. where did you get the awesome mommy superhero?

  10. Thanks everyone!

    Bfiles - thanks for pointing out that I didn't attribute the image. That's not cool, right. I have corrected my mistake up in the post and added the credit to the author of the image. I have also added a link to where you can buy the cake topper (because that's what it was).


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